All You Single Ladies

As asked, I will comment on my female version of Christian singledom...for all my sisters out there that are around my age ~ yes, I can say it ~ 40 ~ do you ever get the feeling you've been labeled with an expiration date???? It's the strangest thing! At this point in my life I feel SO fantastic that I absolutely do NOT think about my age ~ that is until I get the look or the commentary when people start asking about "what are you going to do now?" Which is interpreted as: "you are 40 & single! how will you survive? is it possible that you're heading into spinster land? are you dating? better hurry, you won't be 40 forever......."
Apparently being single and 40+ means you only have "so much time" to find someone before you expire and no possible man on earth could be interested unless he's blind or so old that we're 18 to him!
What the.???
For the last few weeks I've been seeing a nice guy and enjoying the time spent with him & talking to via phone, etc. I let that "slip" out in general conversation & the vultures attacked from ALL angles! "Do you like him? Is THIS the ONE? Is he "husband" material? Don't let him "get away"....there's just not many left that will date someone YOUR AGE!"
Can you believe it???? I'm still offended! Are you ladies experiencing anything like that as well??? If so, I'm curious~~ I always answer the above questions simply by flipping them off  ~just kidding ~ I answer them by saying that as with everything, I give it to God and follow His leading. WHO or WHATever this guy is to be in my life is GOD's doing, purposing, etc. so I simply give it to Him & enjoy the time He allows & if it's not meant to be, God will take care of that too.
And as far as this "spinsterhood" thing ~ ladies, really? We let ourselves get tagged with labels such as that and we get depressed, sometimes desperate & we can end up either settling for what we THINK we can get in this day and age or we even go so far as to violate God's commands about remaining pure (yes I'm talking about sex) because somehow we think we know better than God & if we don't have sex, who will stay with us? Well let me tell you ~ if God has chosen someone for me and/or for you, that's who will stay and that should be the ONLY one you would want to have stay. ANYONE else, no matter how convincing, how wonderful, how blah, blah, blah, is a deception by the enemy. DO NOT fall for it. I'm not saying that guy is the enemy but if he's pressuring you to do that then he's being controlled in that area by something other than God ~ therefore, he's not the one for you.
I like to say when I'm dating someone that he's Mr. Right for right now ~ because God will let me know who is or who isn't. And if there's never a Mr. Right for longer than right now, then it would be God's will and He would provide a way to endure for those of you who fear (remember fear is not from God) the future "alone".
Please believe me ladies, I understand not wanting to be alone, I KNOW what it feels like & I know the pain and sorrow that can accompany it. But I also KNOW that God will get you through it and He will provide.
So ~ yes I am 40. Yes, I am (currently) seeing someone. No, I don't know if he's "The One". Yes, I am enjoying my time with him & Yes, whatever God's will is for this I will follow it ~~~ & if it's not meant to be I'm sure I will experience some sadness or disappointment but I WILL SURVIVE and I will NOT EXPIRE!
Love In Christ my sisters ~ Remember who YOU are ~ you are a precious D.O.R.K. ~ Daughter of the Risen King!