SINGLE LADIES CONT'D..

I like to update as soon as things change because so much in our lives change so much even in a day and I believe that's where we women get stuck. We float around on "clouds of emotion" and we let those emotions decide our attitudes, impact our happiness, etc.
In the last post I told you I was seeing someone & whatever God's will for that 'relationship' was I would follow & if it didn't last I would be fine.
It ended ~ I'm fine. Why? Because I am not whole because of earthly men, I am whole because of the Man of God, Son of God, our King ~ Jesus. Was I depressed? No, but I was disappointed. Did it kill me? Well obviously not ~ God sustains me. Is my expiration date (of over 40) now coming into play? LOL ~ NO.
We do that though ~ we get nervous as if we're running out that precious clock that is like an hourglass on whether or not we'll find "the one" before it's gone and we're too old for anything anymore, seemingly life itself.
Well I refuse to give in completely to that mentality. God holds my hourglass and yours in His fully purposed hands and if it's His Will for me ~ or you ~ to be with someone then it will be, and if it's not, then we must learn to accept it. We do this by staying in His Word & letting it flow in and through us. The Holy Spirit comforts like no comfort we can imagine, we only need ask and He is there ~ without conditions & without fail. What earthly man ~ or even women ~ can do that for us whenever & be exactly what we need? The answer is there are some that can SOMETIMES, but none that can at all times as He can and will.
But if you are really down, really lonely, try reading Psalms for encouragement, ask the Lord for comfort and turn to your GODLY friends for help ~~ the non-Christians may be willing to help, but they can lead you down an even deeper drop into depression. There's a bed-ridden man (disabled) who says the secret to accepting his disability or ANY adversity is to cite these truths:
1: I'm not, but He is.
2: I can't, but He can.
3: I don't want to, but He wants to.
4: I didn't, but He did.
Don't give up ladies ~ and don't give in!! The temptations for me during these times have been so intense I have actually considered giving in to them in very weak moments ~~ the very moments the evil enemy awaits to send you exactly what you think you need ~~ not having sex with the man I was seeing was MUCH harder than I ever thought it would be, and even after a few short weeks I actually found my mind considering it! Praise to the Lord He made sure I did not. Most recently I have had two very married (& good looking let me tell you ~~ remember Satan was not ugly...he was most beautiful & he is the great deceiver) anyhow, 2 married men attempt to talk me into a brief affair ~ seriously. This is where we must dig deeper than ever into God's provisions and hold strong ~ it is difficult and lonely to be alone, but remember this~ giving in to sin such as this will make whatever you are going through WORSE. You will not be blessed, you will not be happy, you will not be fulfilled. Temporary pleasures can & in my past have forever changed my life & even hurt the lives of others. Saying NO honors God & divides out those sent by the enemy & those sent by God. Trust in Him ladies, pray Proverbs 3 vs 5-6, memorize it, recite it as often as it takes. I love you my sisters in Christ. Remember your station ~ you are a daughter of the Risen King ~ as always, your fellow DORK, J.